All that grief and heartache over a religion that was never the truth in the first place.
Pete Zahut
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JW's make the big time news
by eyeuse2badub inlifestyle.
ex-jehovah's witnesses break silence on shunning: 'my mother treats me like i'm dead'.
detroit free press 3 hours ago .
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Pete Zahut
The article said an estimated 70,000 are DF'd every year and two thirds of them never return. That's about 46,000 people, many of whom are the walking wounded who never quite recover. This number doesn't even include the "Walk Away Witnesses" who leave on their own and yet still carry some of the residue left on them from their years as JW's. -
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Cousin's Runaway Girlfriend Living with us
by RunAwayDaughter inmy cousin's girlfriend moved from another state and is now living in our home.
they said she lived in a bad situation, but i don't believe them.
my cousin lies.
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Pete Zahut
Something doesn't seem right about your story. The mother is supposedly a JW but is letting her son and your daughter sleep together in her house, even though she herself has been disciplined in the past for the same issue. If she is a JW and doing this, then she's a JW in name only.
You said that they've made up a lot of lies about you so how do you know if anything you've heard about his family and the goings on in their house is true? How do you know if this business of him owning guns and being violent is true? Who told you that they were sleeping together?
If your daughter is 18, there's not much you can do except behave rationally and maturely. The tone of your post makes it seem as if you are (understandably) indeed being a bit hysterical and controlling (sorry), which will only drive your daughter further away.
I certainly wouldn't go running across the country after her if she hasn't asked you to come. If she wants her papers, then send them to her. In addition to her getting what's legally hers, she'll have to give you her address so at least you'll know exactly where she is (if you don't already).
If she's doing chores and taking care of a child, maybe that's a good thing. She'll get to see that being away from home isn't the picnic she imagined. If her boyfriend is being possessive and controlling, maybe she'll tire of it and contact you about getting her out of there.
If she doesn't graduate...that's her problem. She'll have to get her GED or go to High School again next year. If she looses out on her scholarships....too bad. She'll have to apply again. She must be a smart girl so she'll have to figure out what to do. This is not your problem.
It seems to me you're working harder at this than she is. You've given her the idea that she can come home anytime, which is nice of you but I'm guessing that (like most teens) she doesn't appreciate what she had or how much you did for her. It sounds as if she's got the upper hand here and has the idea that she's doing you some kind of favor by contacting you. If you are as freaking out about this as much as you say, it may be that if you've been overly involved or overly emotionally invested in her live, you've given her the idea that she's pretty special and she may be a bit spoiled.
If it were me, I'd let her know that you are there to help her if she's in trouble and that you MAY be open to the idea of letting her come home but now that she's moved out in this manner, things will be different from now on. It may shock her to see the change in your tone go from desperation and panic to one where you've "dropped your endo of the rope" and handed it all over to her.
If she actually asks to come home, I'd lay out some ground rules. Make sure she knows that it's not a done deal and that if you do allow her to come home, you're doing her a big favor , rather than the other way around.
You've had some big losses and are quite vulnerable at the moment so you're probably letting her walk all over you. She'll appreciate you more if you stop being somewhat of a doormat.
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Life is a bag of Sh^t
by JRK inhappy st. paddy's day.. that being said, life is a bag of shit.. so please give me some sort of positivity in this post.. i wish i could get it from whom i would like it from, but that is a bullshit dream.. life sucks then you die!.
jk.
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Pete Zahut
It's true that life can be difficult at times but it can be wonderful as well.
A person can find ants at just about any picnic if they look hard enough.
Try not to expect too much from life, yourself and others and as difficult as it might be, try to find something to smile about rather than focusing on the negative things that may be going on at the moment.
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JW Jokes
by OnTheWayOut inthey don't want you to donate blood because..... .....it might be within the erection of a homosexual act at any time.
watchtower tried to become the internet service provider of their members...... ......but their virus software kept deleting all but 144,000 select files.
what do you get when you cross a devil worshipper with a jehovah's witness?
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Pete Zahut
You might be a Jehovah’s Witness if you have a gold “Torture Stake” hanging on a chain around your neck, instead of a gold cross.
Inexpensive and readily available technology has made it difficult for JW’s to find people to talk to. Just about anyone can now afford to install an electronic bible detector on their front door.
You might be a Jehovah’s Witness if having your entire family over for a turkey dinner on Thanksgiving is how you don’t celebrate Thanksgiving.
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Pete Zahut
In the 25+ years that I attended my last congregation, there was only one person baptized who did not grow up as a JW. He had a pony tail and tattoos, was a biker and drug user and was exposed to "the truth" when he hooked up with a DF'd woman who had grown up as a JW. She made a comeback and talked him into studying. He was baptized and eventually progressed to the point of becoming a Ministerial Servant and was constantly trotted out a assemblies as an example of the good effect becoming a JW can have on a person. A few years later he put a gun to his head and ended his own life.
Another young guy we knew who grew up as a JW and was currently active and in good standing and seemed to have everything going for him, mysteriously ingested a bunch of pills and didn't survive. The general JW consensus was that he was gay and couldn't take the guilt of breaking gods law and living a double life
Another 40 something brother in our congregation was found hanging by a belt from the bannisters of the stairway in his house. A year or two previously, his JW wife (born in) suddenly divorced him and took the kids and left the religion altogether. No one was DF'd and no announcement was made as a result of the divorce, so everyone was left wondering what the problem was. After his death it became public knowledge that he was found wearing women's clothing and it was said that his death was due to erotic asphyxiation.
Can't help but think that these suicides could have been prevented if these individuals had been certain that confidentiality would have been assured and they wouldn't have been publically shamed if they'd have talked to someone about their problems.
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Physical Symptoms with the mention or thought of Borg, JW, etc
by CovertsadJW ingood morning , .
does anyone else have physical symptoms with the mention of jw ,borg, wt, etc.
my wife mentioned that we should study the watchtower with the kids and just the thought made me physically anxious and mildly nauseated.
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Pete Zahut
F.O.G Fear Obligation and Guilt
Just about every JW related activity is based in F.O.G.
Preparing the Watchtower for the Sunday meeting for most JW's is done out of obligation and guilt rather than the sheer joy of learning. When one disregards the feelings of obligation or guilt and doesn't study their Watchtower, anxiety sets in because on some level they still believe that not following through with the obligations placed on them by the Watchtower Society, will bring displeasure and eventually wrath from God.
For practicing JW's there's not only the concern about displeasing God but in addition, they fear being looked down upon by their JW peers who may notice that there aren't any colored lines drawn in the paragraphs of their Watchtower.
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Pete Zahut
I'm guessing the rumpled little hat belonged to the boy and Tony plopped it on his own head for a photo op that would demonstrate to all, how fun and endearing he is.
The caption could read:
Since you don't have any pocket money to give me (err..um...) Jehovah, I'm sure this hat of yours will fetch a pretty penny at that flea market across the street.
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Crooked Teeth
by Introvert 2 inwell 55 yo this summer times flies.. was in my late thirties when i started thinking about getting braces or some other treatment for my crowded teeth.
decided to put it off a few years later as 'the new system' ™ was right around the corner.
then went through a huge burn out depression and my teeth became a lesser priority.
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Pete Zahut
Keep your own natural teeth at all cost.
Run from any dentist who recommends that you remove healthy teeth.
Dentistry is a business and there are dentist's who'll recommend a treatment that's best for their own pocketbook.
Putting crowns on your teeth is sometimes an option but they can have problems in time.
My Son had braces, his teeth turned out great and the time passed by quickly.
I'd definitely go with braces. If you're concerned about the look of regular braces, you might want to check out the clear Invisalign option.
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Synonyms of the word pioneer include discoverer, innovator and architect, but...
by Isambard Crater in... in the j.w's it means to spend 50 or 70 hours each month in wasted time, perhaps stood at a cart that nobody pays attention to..
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Pete Zahut
...and as far as I know, not one of them has so much as seen a covered wagon, let alone headed out west in one of them.
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Unhappy being asked to give a Disfellowshipped Sister a ride to and from Meetings
by Isambard Crater ini'm pimo, very much against disfellowshipping, and going to a meeting leaves me feeling confused and angry at the best of times.
except an elder asked me on thursday night if i can start giving a ride to a disfellowshipped woman because she lives near me and nobody else from the hall lives in my village.
it seems the elder and his family who have been giving this woman a ride for the past six months can no longer stomach the time it takes them to go out of their way.. i thought all normal publishers weren't to have any contact with disfellowshipped people?
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Pete Zahut
Tell the elder that since he's bending the rules, you'll give her rides to meeting so long as he adds a clause to her disfellowshippment which enables her to sit where she wants and to speak to whomever she pleases.